Wednesday, January 25, 2006

Are we in that place yet?

When I started writing here several months ago I was full of it (hence the url). I ranted and swore and made fun of individuals and groups and probably even nations as a whole (most likely ours). I was high on myself. I smoked me. I was sure that some spineless soul from BFE Alabama would stumble across my words and *ding* would be transformed into Al Franken crossed with Jeff Foxworthy. I know now that I was playing with fire. Al Franken and Jeff Foxworthy's love children would probably have pubic hair on their head, coke bottle glasses and tell redneck jokes with a lisp.

In fact, what has happened instead is I have made friends. Friends that are like me, but not. Friends that are far away, but close. People that I admire, laugh with, commiserate with, and cry with, but have never met. I'm trying to keep this on the sentimental side of maudlin, but it's difficult, because I'm getting all verklempt up in here. *Ahem*

I tell myself that this is an excellent writing exercise and a worthwhile escape from (what can be) the monotony of staying at home with babies, but that is barely true. In fact, the writing that I do here is more like fast food, compared to the four course meal I feel I should be preparing. But that's not really fair. Just because I'm stringing together letters that spell words doesn't mean I should compare this to my Big Writing Project waiting to be finished. Apples and oranges. No, more like apples and bendy-straws. This has become much more than Writing. You all, whether you comment or not, have become my own private community of people to share a cup of coffee with. Some of you I know in real life, and as I write I'm also thinking of the times we've spent together, which also makes me all warm and fuzzy (really, I'm not drunk! Sheesh, it's only 9:30 in the morning - we don't start cracking beers here until at least after lunch). Again, *ahem*

With all that said, I still yearn to rant about the state of health care, and the scary future of Roev.Wade with Alito on the bench, and the fact that nobody notices that Dan Rather can't say his L's, but I'm wondering now if this is still the forum for that. I worry about alienating readers, which, if you know me, is completely unlike me. I remember as a young girl being told that I don't "pull punches." When I finally figured out what that meant, I was proud of myself. I don't like tiptoeing around issues. I don't like leaving things unsaid. I like to wear my mind on my sleeve, but now I'm in a relationship with so many people I'm starting to censor myself. So I guess what I'm saying is, Do you like me well enough to stick with me if I piss you off? Are we there yet? If you were my boyfriend, could I fart in front of you yet?

19 Comments:

Blogger Orange said...

I hear you, I agree, I know what you're saying, and let 'er rip. Political blog farts are awesome. (I do 'em myself from time to time.) Don't censor yourself—use all those parts of your brain, and we'll keep reading. I promise.

1/25/2006 8:58 AM  
Anonymous TB said...

I struggle with this all the time Mignon. I hesitate before posting things that I'm sure some of my online friends and possibly any other random readers, all two of them, will disagree with.
And I just wrote today in response to my latest post that, in the end, I made a promise to myself that I would do this for me and that I would write honestly no matter what.
The bottom line is, you have to be yourself and write what's on your mind and in your heart, or what's the point? I don't come here every day because you are just like me and I want validation from you. I come back because you are a funny, down to earth, intelligent woman and a great writer and I for one would love to know your perspective on anything from parenting to politics.
So, fart away, just give me a warning so I can get out of the line of fire.

1/25/2006 9:00 AM  
Anonymous Nancy said...

I struggle with this too -- I honestly think all bloggers do. Actually, I link to bloggers with all different types of political and personal views, and I love each one for different reasons. I do not get offended by different viewpoints, and in fact I love to hear them. The only time I would get offended is if someone were to attack me personally by name (which I don't think any of my blog buddies would do.)

So fire away -- you won't scare me.

1/25/2006 10:27 AM  
Blogger Jaye Wells said...

My blog went public just a few weeks ago. Before that it was a fun exercise I did to amuse myself and my friends. But now it's a whole new ball of ear wax.

I think as long as you aren't making personal attacks and you have well-thought-out arguments you're ok. I don't mind someone having differing opinions. What I can't stand is when people spout off without thought or without being able to give me a reason for their opinion.

Anyway, if nothing else it makes for some drama.

1/25/2006 10:48 AM  
Blogger mama_tulip said...

I hate confrontation. I hate upsetting people, and even worse, offending someone. I always pause before I post something on my blog and wonder if I am going to offend anyone.

But then I think to myself, "Hell, this is my blog, where I can write what I want and if someone doesn't like it, there's that "Next Blog" button up there in the top right corner."

I want to hear what you have to say, Mignon...all of it. I've gotten a sense of who you are over the little while I've been reading your blog and I really don't think you're the kind of person who is going to come here and post stuff to intentionally offend people. I'm always reading, even if I don't comment (sometimes, being a Canadian, I don't feel like I should comment on US political stuff...), and I really enjoy your blog. So bring it on.

1/25/2006 11:46 AM  
Blogger Mignon said...

Thanks you guys... I wasn't really fishing for compliments, but your words are making me feel the love. Thanks. And I'm not talking about screaming my head off like a looney on the corner, or anything. Just doing a little friendly Bush-bashing and radical right-ripping.

1/25/2006 12:59 PM  
Blogger Arabella said...

Mignon, even if I didn't already love you, I'd love you for this post.

You are my friend, even though I've never met you. And I was just IM'ing with C.S. about pretty much the same issue. I was wondering if my lack of Blogging for Choice caused a deafening silence and if everyone hates me. Coincidentally or not, my comments are way down since then.

Depending on where I've lived, I've been viewed as both a raging liberal and a raging conservative. I'm an Independent with certain strong views and a total lack of views on other issues.

To me, reasonable minds can and do differ--often from time to time within the same person. People matter a lot more to me than ideas. I'll take whatever you put out there, if you'll take me as I am, too. Let's break bread at B-List Blog Chicks '06.

1/25/2006 1:26 PM  
Blogger Arabella said...

BTW, you could TOTALLY fart in front of me.

1/25/2006 1:32 PM  
Blogger The Queen Mama said...

Let 'er rip, honey!

Seriously, I think about this sometimes, too. Because I tend to lean more conservative on a lot of issues, and it seems like so many blogs I happen upon are pretty liberally bent. Doesn't stop me from reading them, though.

In short, I think most people are willing to hear a different point of view. So I think you can safely expel gas. Those who don't stick around...well, would you really want them around anyway? (Gah! I just totally said something my mom would've said!)

1/25/2006 2:08 PM  
Anonymous Jess said...

I don't think I've commented here before, but I, for one, would stick around for the rants. I've censored myself, as well, mostly because I don't want to alienate anyone by dissing their favorite adult contemporary rock band or other minor things like that. I should really stop doing that. Because I really, really hate Dave Matthews. There! I said it!

Go for it. I'll be reading.

1/25/2006 2:11 PM  
Blogger The Gradual Gardener said...

I thought about this before I did my Blogging for Choice entry, and in the end I decided to write it anyway, even if I lost a few readers. I didn't get any dissenting comments, but I wouldn't have minded if I did, as long as everybody knows how to "play nice". Stating the opposing view is fine as long as it's done in a civil manner. My parents were involved in local politics when I was a kid, so I learned early on the importance of playing nice. Not all of the politicans followed this rule, but boy, those who didn't looked awful childish.

So go ahead...fart away!

1/25/2006 4:06 PM  
Blogger Ditsy Chick said...

Let her rip. I think that only people who are uncomfortable with their beleifs are threatened by listening to anything or anyone with a different opinion.

I also think how bass ackwards bloger friends are....they know more about you than your best friend in high school, emotionally. However, we don't even know most of our buddies real names.

Your blog is a treat to read.

1/25/2006 9:58 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Mignon, you rock. No censoring, give it everything. That's why we all love you. PD x Happy Australia Day

1/26/2006 2:24 AM  
Blogger Brooke said...

We are sooo there. :)

But I understand what you mean. One post on how I thought suicide was a cowardly act led to my first hate mail received...AND my need to write another two or three posts to clarify my point. I can't stand it when anyone is mad at me. Even complete strangers.

But such is the path we took when we began blogging to begin with, I suppose. So say what you need to say.

1/26/2006 5:59 AM  
Blogger V said...

Yeah! Sing it sistah....
Who doesn't love Bush-bashing?
And it's YOUR blog.

1/26/2006 8:56 AM  
Blogger Mignon said...

Happy Australia Day to you, PD! Way to go English convicts! Way to go Aborigines! Thank you all very much for Hugh Jackman. You can have Nicole Kidman back, her forehead is scaring the children.

1/26/2006 1:34 PM  
Anonymous TIF said...

Your mother's comment on "The Shorts Who Made You Who You Are" caused a B+ Friends to censor her comment. That made me sad.

Just so you know, my "neighbors" in this Internet shop crane to see what's making me giggle uncontrollablly. Your blog takes the place of the soon-to-be-banned "party pills" in NZ.

1/26/2006 4:39 PM  
Blogger Mignon said...

tif, what's a B+ Friend?
And do you mean my blog is the new rave drug?

1/27/2006 8:02 AM  
Blogger Odd Mix said...

I don't know if you see comments from this far back, but I will fire away. Go ahead and fart!

I am a conservative member of the radical right you wish to rip. One of my best friends leans so far left he'd fall into the Pacific if it werent for the Rocky Mountains. We used to go walking at lunch (until he moved to a new job) and discuss political issues. We had a great time because we each treated the other with respect. I don't mind listening to liberal oppinions (or conservative ones, for that matter) as long as they have a rational bent. In other words as long as the argument is thoughtful and not either a) simple repetition of dogmatic statements or media hype nor b) unsupported name calling.

For example:
Bush is poor leader because his economic policies have resulted in more bankruptcieas among the middle class earnings group - OK, I'm still listening.
Bush is a bigoted redneck asshole - Ooops, lost me there.

Hilary Clinton's Health Care agenda was idiotic because it would have brough the majority of health care down to the lowest comon denominator - We're still talking.
Hillary Clinton is a carpet bagging egomaniac - I just turned off the radio, Rush.

So rant away. State your case. I hope you won't mind if I state my dissenting opinion.

3/07/2006 9:11 AM  

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